Self validation

Self validation plays an important role in our lives. 

It's all about knowing who you are, setting the right boundaries and not let anyone step on them.

It's about accepting, loving and respecting yourself enough so that other people's opinions don't change your perception of yourself.

Let me tell you something.

You don't need other people's approval.

You got rejected? So what? Everybody does.

Loving yourself enough will help you keep the right people in your life.

How do you accomplsh that?

You need to spend some time with yourself first.

Do not go on dates.

Do not seek other people's approval.

Spend some time alone. Learn to love your own company. Identify your flaws and work on them. Identify your good traits and embrace yourself. Get to know the real you, what you like and what you don't.

When you spend a year alone or even some months, you will be able to be independent. You will not need anyone's opinion or approval. Your approval is the only one that matters.

You will become more emotional mature. Rejection will not hit that hard. Because you will then know who you really are and what you truly deserve. You will then understand that getting rejected is a blessing. Not everyone is meant to be with you. Other's disapproval does not define who you are. 

People judge you by their point of you, their own unique trauma, their own journey. They do not know the real you and they never will.

The only person who knows your real you is yourself. So the only opinion that matters to you is yours.